Thursday, July 12, 2007

Conversation Starter.......


Thanks to The Seventh Diamond for the inspiration for this post. Come on over I'll share my pickles and ice cream with ya. Earlier today I read a post on her blog called "Searching for The Idenity of an Adpoting Mother" and it got me to thinking:
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Listen friends and family we here in the adoption community are any where from 1-20 months + pregnant and some days we just feel so excluded from the mother-to-be community. I know sometimes you may feel guilty because you think perhaps you have something we don't but you are so very wrong.....we may not have a belly to put our hand on but we have our heart. You may be able to go to your Dr. and hear the heart beat but we can walk into a nursery that has been eagerly awaiting for in some cases 20 months and sit on the rocking chair and hear in the stillness a faint giggle and smell her blanket that is resting on the corner of her crib. Don't get me wrong I'm so incredibly happy for you, you are truly blessed in different ways than I.
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Please include me in your circle when your telling all our other friends that diapers are on sale, I'd love to hear the stories of your delivery.....Please don't look on me with saddened eyes when you tell me your pregnant cause guess what!!!! We have something in common! I am pregnant too.....allow me to be a player....please don't leave me on the side lines....please.....Invite me to all the baby showers, I love to give all my friends children squeaky shoes! plus a portion of all the sales go back to where my daughter is sleeping at night right now....it's ok you can hand me your baby to hold for a moment while you tie your shoe.....I promise I won't run off with him/her.....I am patiently waiting for delivery of my very own.........yes it is oh so much longer than 9 months....and I'm really doing ok with that....I do not want to rush what is already Gods great plan....and I'm pretty confidant that He has her all ready picked out for us.
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So go ahead ask me anything you want to know about where we are in the process.....you don't have to ask other people what's going on with us, you won't get a more accurate answer than from me and you won't at all upset me by asking...I LOVE to talk about it.
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I know many of you are praying for us....feel free to pray for specific things that are going on....for example that we swiftly exit the review room, and that we would continue to dream about her and that she will be safe in our Fathers arms of protection until she is in our own. Have faith with us my friends and family....she will be here with us one day.....in the mean time we have the LONGEST gestation of a pregnant person you will ever know and we need you more now than ever.
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As for those of you who are there for your friends who are adopting....Thanks.....more than you'll ever know.

25 comments:

Dannye said...

well said, although the picture, ewwwwww, hehe

I wholeheartedly agree though with what you are saying!!! well put!!

nikki said...

I agree with Dannye -- that was VERY well put. I wish I had known you when I was pregnant with Lily.

You should really see about getting that in a magazine -- more people need to read it.

Janet said...

I loved that. REALLY good. The pickles on the ice cream? Ugh.

amy said...

that was absolutely beautiful...You should have that published..I want to share that with my friends!

Robin said...

Beautiful post but you totally ruined those awesome pickles with that ice cream.. LOL :-)

Nadine said...

I loved hearing your heart in this post. I stand with you for the protection of your little girl until she is in your arms safe and sound. You wrote this very beautifully.

Jill and Jaap said...

well said!

Shannon S said...

Lovely post. Your exiting the review room is totally in my thoughts and prayers! Agree with the others...no icky pickles ruining my ice cream! =)

Julie said...

Thank you, thank you, thank you for this post!

redmaryjanes said...

With tears in my eyes, I want you to know that I love this post. It is perfect. I would have ice cream and pickles with you anytime.

Jennifer "Jenny" said...

Great Post! Well said and oh so true :)

Elisa, Jarrod & Thomas said...

That's a great post, well said.
I am off for pickles and ice-cream!!..

Guess what ...I am leaving on the 25th...wow pinch me I think it is really happening!!

cougchick said...

oh, how I long to eat pickles and ice cream....

Dolores and Shawn said...

What a great post. The ice cream and pickles however....

Jewels of My Heart said...

What a special post... So very true! It hurts when your friends don't get it. We are more than pregnant when waiting for our children... I have dubbed March of the Penguins as the official adoption saga... That is about what we have to or have had to go through.
God's Speed and enjoy your pickles and ice cream.

Made in China said...

Well said but that picture is grooooossssssss!!!

Holly said...

Great post, but the pickles.......

Gracie said...

Great post, however, the pickle is grossing me out

Ms. Dragonfly said...

This should be given out to eveyone who knows someone adopting. don't excude us! We're expecting too! and above all else, don't look sad or feel sorry cuz i'm NOT! I'm thrilled!

Kim said...

I had a friend ask me if I was suppose to have a shower because the whole adoption thing wasn't the "normal" way to get a kid.

Great.

Thanks a bunch.

Elise said...

Perfect post...exactly how I feel!

Emmie said...

Beautiful post!
That picture would look delicious..without the pickles!=)

Shionge said...

Yo Debbie, I am so glad you get that off your chest and voice out to all mothers out there treating you differently.

They are just not being themselves Debbie, you know what? You have me & your blog buddies holding on hands :D

Ann said...

I don't know why that put tears in my eyes, but it did. I think it was line to our friends that are there for us.

But I'm still not feelin' the pickles and ice cream :0)

Steffie B. said...

beautiful post....however I'm not sure sure about the pickles and hot fudge! lol