Wednesday, May 02, 2007
A lady was talking to a friend who was in the process of adopting from China and asked her if she was approached by someone to adopt privately would she be interested. Confused by the question and where she was going with it the lady asked for clarification and it got her to thinking with the wait being so long, could this be too good to be true, could she adopt privately while also waiting for her daughter from China? Needing more information the lady offered the friend phone numbers to give the person who was looking for a home for a 9 month old child. The caregiver of the child (who was legally allowed to place the child with the assistance of a licenced adoption lawyer) then called the adopting lady and they spoke but only about the basics. The adopting lady wanted to guard her heart so she only asked the basic questions and told the caregiver of the baby that she would speak to her husband about it and if agreed to, would seek legal counsel.
After the lady spoke to her husband they took a couple of days to search their hearts and pray about it. They felt lead to take the next step and see what they would have to do to see this happen. The lady called someone in the system who knew all the legalities of adoption and asked a few questions. What she found out was that they would have to put their China adoption on hold for a year after the private adoption took place and that the log in date would take effect again once the file was reiterated. The couple adopting from China was then left with a choice. Do they put their China adoption on hold and adopt domestically or do they continue on their way happy that they did not emotionally attach themselves to the child they new nothing about who could potentially be placed in their arms in a matter of weeks..................
They new right away in their hearts that God didn't lead them through 4 years of hard labour from infertility to their current 10 month LID in vain. They knew they had to lay the opportunity down and walk.
She also knew in her heart during the whole 6 day ordeal not to ever ask what the babies name was for fear that it would have stigma attached to it and she was very grateful to God for revealing that to her. Today the lady had to call the caregiver of the baby and explain to her that could not put on hold what God had already put on their hearts.
So now the lady feels both joy and sorrow. People always say that everything happens for a reason so perhaps the reason this happened to this adopting couple was so that they would be gently reminded to continually have faith, trust and belief that their time will come in God's time and perhaps this baby was put in their path just to be prayed for.
The lady later learned that according to the meeting from all the adoption agencies in San Antonio, the CCAA has said it will reject applications that have had additions to their families in the wait time. They also said that agencies that do so could loose their accreditation standing with China. This was something that the legal councel she sought did not tell her. (They may not know this themselves.)
Those who know trials and have survived from them a better person understand the comfort of knowing someone is there listening to you, someone who understands you, all those hurts you’re going through. Someone who doesn’t judge you or condemn you, just someone who loves you and trusts you that if you will only hang in there a little more, you shall surely make it through.
She has found her greatest joy in the arms of God in her darkest hour. She felt him hugging her, comforting her, crying with her. He didn’t just watch her. He didn’t scold her and reprimanded her to get up and be strong and stop being such a fool. He cried with her. He knew her pain and he claimed it as though it were His own.
....I know whom I have believed, and am convinced that he is able to guard what I have entrusted to him for that day. -2 Tim. 1:12
So now that the lady has felt the tiny drops of humanity slide down her cheeks and splash on the floor of her heart she is going to do some blog hopping for referral therapy.